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February 14, 2012

Social Change and Generational Rebellion

Filed under: Uncategorized — jackoatsmon @ 1:26 pm

I was talking to a couple of colleagues and were discussing the changing social norms these days.  How getting a divorce is common and socially acceptable.  How sex outside marriage seems to have become acceptable.  The list can go on and on.

In a way, we have become more tolerant.  I suppose that we do not want to offend or lose our friends / relations.  Someone got pregnant prior to their marriage?  Its understandable.  Someone got divorced?  Its normal.  I remember when I was young, a divorce was something that was extremely rare and horrifying.  I remember how shocked I was when I first heard about a divorce within my extended family.  The next thing I knew, there were divorces happening all over the place.  Sex outside of marriage?  The media has lead the charge and made it a norm to have multiple partners.  It has become such that if you want to maintain the moral standards and behavior of the past generations and disassociate yourself from those with loose morals, you will quickly find yourself living in self imposed isolation.

I wonder if the change in moral standards is due to rebellion against the establishment.  At one time, acceptable dressing was to be fully covered from the neck down.  Then came the mini skirt.  This was frowned upon by the adults of the time and I supposed thus gleefully embraced by the youths of the time.  Of course, the youths eventually grew up and became the establishment.  The establishment now accepted a different standard of dressing that was more relaxed than the generation before theirs.  But the youths of the time still felt a need to rebel against the establishment and along came micro-minis, punks, goths, etc.

The barely dressed youths of today, the punks and goths will one day become the adults of tomorrow.  They will become the new establishment.  What then will be the standards of society?  What will be the acceptable clothing and standards of behavior?  The youths of tomorrow will still feel a need to rebel against the establishment.  How will they do it?  Considering the amount of clothes (or lack thereof) that the current youths are wearing, they will have to go naked if they wish to continue the current trend.  I like to imagine that we will reach a time when the youths will rebel by covering up as much as possible, lose all but the most minimal amount of makeup and start holding on to a puritan-like sense of morality.  It will be a strange sight to behold and one which I am quite glad that I will be unlikely to see.


October 18, 2011

Oriented and Orientated

Filed under: Uncategorized — jackoatsmon @ 3:32 pm

One of the things that I had often challenged people on was the use of the word ‘orientated’.  I had always thought that it was a mispronunciation of the word ‘oriented’.  I was therefore rather surprised to hear an Englishman use the word today.  Finally did a check on the web and discovered that both words are correct although ‘orientated’ appears to be used more by the British and ‘oriented’ by the Americans.  The Englishman in question does not use the word ‘oriented’.

For someone who is supposed to be able to speak the Queen’s English, this is rather embarressing.  (Although I am certain that there is already a multitude of errors in my writing.)

For those who are interested, I found the above information at http://www.worldwidewords.org/qa/qa-ori1.htm.

April 9, 2010

Between Jobs

Filed under: Uncategorized — jackoatsmon @ 2:00 am

I am currently between jobs.  I decided to take a break for a couple of days before starting my new job.  In all honesty, I am not sure what to do with myself.  I enjoy having a quiet time to myself but these days, with the house and even my room being constantly occupied, it is not possible to do so anymore.

Going out means spending money (which is not that great an idea when one is jobless).

I recall reading a quotation once (probably in Reader’s Digest) that the only thing a man can do constantly (besides sleeping) for eight hours a day is work.  I tend to agree.  I cannot imagine doing this every day.  I had actually handed over all my work before my last day of work that I was actually at loose ends and did not know what to do with myself at work.  It was driving me mad.  At least now, I can choose to do nothing legitimately.

March 17, 2010

The Ugly Game

Filed under: Uncategorized — jackoatsmon @ 12:17 pm

There is an arcade game that is hugely popular with the kids in Singapore at present.  Its name is Animal Kaiser.  It is actually quite a cool game.  You basically collect animal and power cards and battle against the machine or another player by using your animal and power cards and stopping a spinner to determine the strength of your attack to see who wins.  My problem is more with the ugly side of people that the game brings out.

During the peak periods (e.g. weekends), you will see huge crowds of children standing there waiting for their turn.  The kids can wait for more than an hour to play.  The reason for this is because there will always be a kid at each machine who will keep playing many games without stopping.  I do not fully blame the kid for doing this because while they are doing this, there will always be an adult guardian standing behind them who constantly supply them with the needed credits to keep playing.  These parents are willfully unaware of the huge crowds of kids waiting for their turn.  If parents behave that way, how do you expect the kids to behave?  The irony of this is that the machine actually has a message asking you to give others a chance.  The message is as useful as a tissue paper in a rainstorm.  I was at Genting Highlands recently and my kid was waiting behind this child whose father kept coming to top up the machine with enough credits for several games at a time.  This was repeated ad nauseam.  We finally gave up and waited at another machine.

The game brings out the ugliness in me as well and I really dislike having to bring my kids to the arcade to play this game.  I normally ask them to stop playing after a couple of games if I see others waiting for a turn.  After facing the long wait, I end up with the kiasu attitude that my kids should play more games as they had to wait such a long time for their turn and just playing one or two games after waiting such a long time is not worth it.  This leads to a vicious cycle I suppose.  This is actually leading to times when parents actually encourage kids to play more games.  Considering that the game is quite expensive, it is actually quite amazing and the winner is the game operator who rakes in the money.

March 3, 2010

Sound Sensitivity

Filed under: Uncategorized — jackoatsmon @ 2:58 am

Ever since our daughter was diagnosed with Aspergers Syndrome, my wife and I have been looking at each other to see who has the same traits that she has.  At present, I am in the lead.

One of the possible traits of people with Aspergers Syndrome is a high sensitivity to noise that they did not cause themselves.  (e.g. they are ok with loud music that they are playing but cannot tolerate a similar noise level from the surrounding environment.)  Lately, I find that my sensitivity to noise appears rather high.  I get very frustrated in a high noise environment especially when many people are speaking loudly at once.  This is posing a problem for me as the kids and wife seems to have to talk extremely loudly at home.  I am finding it painful but if I say something, I will be painted as the bad guy again.

I was never one for loud sounds.  While people would love to crank up the volume of their computer games, I was fine with low or no sound.  Of course that is no longer possible in today’s games as sounds often offer up cues as to what is happening off-screen.

All this noise is making me bad-tempered.  The next thing on my list of issues will probably be having people tell me that I have anger management issues.    Arrgh!

September 18, 2009


Filed under: Uncategorized — jackoatsmon @ 3:02 am

There was a person at the office who just gave birth and when it came to pooling money together for a gift for the newborns, I was not invited to share.

Such things leave a sour taste in my mouth.  It is never nice to be excluded for such simple things.  I can understand when I am not in the inner circle (the boss usually isn’t) but it is sad when people feel that they should leave you out for such simple things.

I am sure that they have their reasoning but I also believe that it is a reasoning that would not be able to survive scrutiny.

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